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Old 06-21-2012, 09:22 AM   #11
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My Aunt (and granny's) personalities are different from that, but I have the same problem. It's really bothersome when you can't stand member(s) of your family (especially when they are your superiors) because not only do you know you should get along with them, you have to pretend to or they throw a fit about you not spending enough time with them or whatnot. You know you shouldn't try to avoid them, and it makes you guilty when you do because they love you, but they can't change their personality, and you can't stand it, so the best option is just to stay away as much as possible without appearing rude. It makes you look bad but I just think of it as my sanity over others approval.

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Old 06-21-2012, 09:40 AM   #12
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I'm really sorry it's so awkward. I can understand how family get togethers can be really difficult. Our family gatherings got so bad, that we really have to limit them now. In our case, there was a lot more cruelty involved though. At least your aunt is trying to be nice.
I would say to talk to your parents about it as nicely as possible, and ask if there could be a little boundary between you and your aunt. Like, not totally separated from her, but ask if maybe you don't have to sit next to her in certain situations, and if you chat with her at a family gathering that maybe they could come 'rescue' you after 15 minutes or so. We do that sometimes in our family. We have sort of a rescue system. lol I know that sounds weird, but it helps.
We can't choose our family, and it's good to stay in touch. Do your best with her. She won't be around forever. I hope you guys can work something out.
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Family are hard. What I find best in these kind of situations is to try and see it from her point of view. If she spends a lot of time not just with her generation but the one before hers it may be very difficult for her to see where you are coming from, same as you with hers. It may also help you to ask your grandparents because they probably know her better then anyone else on the planet.

You may want to do some research into her past that would help you understand her. She may have had something traumatic happen in her earlier life, or she may even be sick and no one has told you.

Before you start accusing her and pointing fingers, you should try to see it from her point of view.
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thank you guys for all your advice
I feel guilty just ignoring her, but that's honestly what I've dicided to do. Of course if she asked me and question or says something, I'll answer, but what I mean by ignoring is not doing stuff with her. And people have asked if it was really a bid deal, hut honestly to me it is, because she is very creepy for staring at me, and I hate it when she goes in to my personal space. Do you understand me? Because I really don't like her very much, even if she is family. My mom is trying to limit the times we spend with my grandparents and aunt, so I guess it's working out. I really never meant to point a finger out at her and just say "SHE MUST BE A CREEPER!!" No, I wouldn't do that, it is a little scary, just someone staring at you, get it? Besides, I'm just going to say she isn't my type of person, and I really don't like talking to her, I'm sorry. I feel so ashamed of being so rude, but there are some people in this world that I can't stand.

Thanks for all the advice

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Maybe she is actually lonely? And the one person she is trying to reach out to is you. Perhaps you remind her of herself when she was younger? Or maybe she just wants to get to know you better.

Perhaps you should try for one day to just have an open-mind and talk to your aunt. Really get to know her yourself. Yes, it is challenging to get to really know someone, I must admit, but you can do it! I know you can! Woot woot! ((waves pom poms))

I hope everything works out for you. Good luck!
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I understand where you're coming from. I have an Aunt that is extremely religious and I'm extremely atheist. She also too treated me like I was five for a long time.

In my opinion, it will get better in time. I realized after awhile that my Aunt was just looking out for me and that she didn't meant to get on my nerves, even if she did.
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Old 06-21-2012, 10:19 AM   #17
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I know lots of people have said other stuff, but I just have some things to say.

First off, like many people stated, she loves you. I am pretty sure of that. And ignoring her, in my opinion, is not the right way to treat family. You say that "even though she is family" but you know, just maybe try to be nice to her and whatever. Also, by staring at you and coming close isn't that creepy. I'm sure she means abslutely no harm. She just might like to spend time with you and that might be her own way of doing it, and trust me, you can't change it.
Another thing that has caught my attention is that you state she's very religious. What's wrong with that? My family is religious, and they have their beliefs. So does your aunt. It's her way of life.

Anyways, I understand what you are trying to say, and I guess, maybe, you could just leave her alone.

Sorry if my post offended you in any sort of way, I'm just saying what I think is right,

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I'm sorry you feel like this.

Talk to her, and say, "It really hurts my feelings when you act like I'm a little girl. I treat you with respect, can't you treat my with some, too?"

As for the 'weird' part, don't say that to her face lol. But, maybe invite her to the mall, and see if you can find her some normal clothes that she likes.

Also, what's wrong with being so religious?
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View Post Originally Posted by BlueParrot
I know lots of people have said other stuff, but I just have some things to say.

First off, like many people stated, she loves you. I am pretty sure of that. And ignoring her, in my opinion, is not the right way to treat family. You say that "even though she is family" but you know, just maybe try to be nice to her and whatever. Also, by staring at you and coming close isn't that creepy. I'm sure she means abslutely no harm. She just might like to spend time with you and that might be her own way of doing it, and trust me, you can't change it.
Another thing that has caught my attention is that you state she's very religious. What's wrong with that? My family is religious, and they have their beliefs. So does your aunt. It's her way of life.

Anyways, I understand what you are trying to say, and I guess, maybe, you could just leave her alone.

Sorry if my post offended you in any sort of way, I'm just saying what I think is right,
I know, and I know I feel so bad for ignoring her, but she has to have respect for me. She can't just treat me like a little girl, and the fact that I'm almost a teenager. And religion is ok I guess, but she'll take EVERYTHING to offence. She takes OMG to offence, I'm got saying oh my god, even I don't like that too much.

And no, your post didn't offend me It's your opinion, and I respect it. I find out nicer ways to say no, instead of just saying flat out no and being done with it. Thank you

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I'm sorry you feel like this.

Talk to her, and say, "It really hurts my feelings when you act like I'm a little girl. I treat you with respect, can't you treat my with some, too?"

As for the 'weird' part, don't say that to her face lol. But, maybe invite her to the mall, and see if you can find her some normal clothes that she likes.

Also, what's wrong with being so religious?
Religouse isn't bad at all. But when she takes everything literaly, like me picking on my brother (hey, she should know were joking, my bro is awesome ) then she'll say something like, "I bey god isn't to happy with you icking on your brother." or something like that. didn't she pick on her 3 brothers. Just saying.
but thanks though

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Old 06-21-2012, 10:33 AM   #20
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View Post Originally Posted by allyb0
I know, and I know I feel so bad for ignoring her, but she has to have respect for me. She can't just treat me like a little girl, and the fact that I'm almost a teenager. And religion is ok I guess, but she'll take EVERYTHING to offence. She takes OMG to offence, I'm got saying oh my god, even I don't like that too much.

And no, your post didn't offend me It's your opinion, and I respect it. I find out nicer ways to say no, instead of just saying flat out no and being done with it. Thank you


Religouse isn't bad at all. But when she takes everything literaly, like me picking on my brother (hey, she should know were joking, my bro is awesome ) then she'll say something like, "I bey god isn't to happy with you icking on your brother." or something like that. didn't she pick on her 3 brothers. Just saying.
but thanks though
Ok, I understand completely :3 Good luck with your aunt
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